While you may not necessarily expect to ever be in a long-distance relationship, many people are at some point, either for a short or long amount of time. For instance, say you live in Chicago and go to Paris for a couple weeks. But then you learn they're not visiting Paris: They live there. Then what? You still have almost two weeks left of your trip, so you both decide to spend every minute together. But neither of you want things to end once you head back home.
For their first date, Emily Harrington and Adrian Ballinger went rock-climbing in the eastern Sierra mountains of California. Their next few dates took place in U. Harrington, a year-old professional rock climber, and Ballinger, a year-old mountain guide, spent months vacation dating after meeting on Mt. Everest in She lived in Boulder.
The new long-distance relationship
He lived in Squaw Valley, Calif. The couple took long-distance romance to another level, engaging in what has become known as vacation dating. People are crossing borders more often, starting relationships on the road, and maintaining them via their tablets and smartphones.
Such "vacationships" have become viable in this highly digital, globalized world. In a world of smartphones, Skype, social media, 10, miles away can be as connected as 10 miles away". Hotels across the country say they have noticed more couples meeting up from their respective homes for romantic vacations.
They've responded by offering more romance-themed packages and amenities. Since opening in May, the Brice, a new Kimpton hotel in Savannah, has had a of couples visit on what employees have come to call "dateaways.
Vacationing couples often ask for floral arrangements, restaurant reservations and picnic baskets for dates in parks, says Lily Moss, assistant general manager at the Brice. Earlier this year, it launched a "Butler Drawn Bath" program which comes with two glasses of wine. Because so many couples vacation there, the property has replaced the banquettes and four-top tables at the oceanfront portion of its restaurant with tables for two. The Westin Hilton Head Island Resort and Spa in South Carolina has a Love Doctor who creates a romantic itinerary that could include a private sunset cruise or a candlelit dinner inside a beachside cabana.
Vacationships: these couples only meet up on the road
Couples in vacationships say that while the arrangement is fun, it also takes a lot of work—and money. Maria Marlowe, a year-old health coach, lives in New York.
Her boyfriend lives in San Francisco. They try to see each other every four to six weeks whenever and wherever they can. I'm busy doing my own thing. He's busy doing his own thing. It's fun to have your space and then to have something to look forward to. Brooke Rose, a year-old public relations manager, sometimes has to drop her plans and get on a plane or into a car to see her boyfriend, a wildlife firefighter.
Each summer, he moves to a different part of the country to fight fires while she stays in Verdi, Nev. This summer, he was based in Grangeville, Idaho. That sentiment has both advantages and disadvantages, psychologists and relationship experts say.
You're going to be away from the stresses in life. Oftentimes on vacation, you see the best part of your lover," says Drew Ramsey, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University and a clinical psychiatrist.
That can work for some couples, though, who may prefer to have a casual relationship on the road. They don't have the time or energy to engage in a fully committed, monogamous relationship. Joshua Klapow, a clinical psychologist and associate professor of public health at the University of Alabama at Birmingham, says relationships that take place primarily on the road can work if each party agrees to the "ground rules. Probably not," he says.
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He says couples can create stability and a sense of normalcy even while on the road by doing things such as exercising together and turning the hotel room into an apartment-like setting. Harrington and Ballinger were able to transition from vacation dating to living in the same town and buying a condo together in Squaw Valley. But both continue to travel for work at least six months a year.
They still take trips together but they are enjoying staying home much more. Alexandra Jimenez, who runs online travel magazine TravelFashionGirl. She's from Los Angeles. They met in Vietnam when both were on solo around the world trips. Because of work and visa issues, they couldn't live in the same country.
Now that she owns her own business, she can work from anywhere. But neither one of them plans to give up their traveling life. Facebook Twitter. Vacationships: These couples only meet up on the road. Share your feedback to help improve our site!